LESSON LEARNT, EXPERIENCE GAINED...

Don’t you just hate it when people have a power over you? When the decisions they take or don’t take affect your life. And you are left alone to pick up the pieces and bear the consequences of their action or non – action. I know it’s not a fair world but sometimes you just wish things were different. What someone did or rather did not do, did have a lasting impact on me, it opened up a scar that had healed but now the scar is beyond remedy. I will have to live with this open wound all my life. This will involve many lifestyle changes which will include saying goodbye to a part of me.

I have to take some blame too, I did trust the person implicitly, and I am responsible for giving people the power to hurt me. In the end it’s you who have been hurt and you’re all alone in this. It’s stupid to have expectations of anyone. No one will understand what you’re going through, worst of all, the person who you trusted and who ended up hurting you, will have no idea or just wont care about you. That’s how life is…

As mentioned earlier, have no expectations from anyone. Whoever said man is a social animal is wrong. At the end of the day you’re all alone and there’s no one with you. The sooner you accept this, the better it is for you. Learn to be independent emotionally and financially. Break the dependency cycle, make all your decisions yourself and don’t let any one have any power over you. Break free from the vicious dependency cycle, it makes you feel secure, but some day some threads are bound to be broken and your left hanging. Clutching on to the shreds, you realize that you’re going nowhere and you’re stuck in a moment that’s long gone by. Letting go will surely hurt and the fall may destroy you. But it’s up to you to rebuild yourself and know what freedom and independence really are by not getting caught up in new knots.

Finally it’s your decisions and choices that make you who you are and you can make what you want of your life. But make sure it’s your call at the end of the day and not someone else taking a decision for you. Trust your instincts and your experience when you’re dealing with things. When you ask someone or consult someone on a dicey problem you are giving away a part of your life and in turn letting them have a power over you. It’s better to control the course of your life yourself, other than handing over the reins to someone else. If things fall apart it is better that you assume responsibility and deal with it. Its just pointless scurrying around to find people who are responsible and expect them to assume responsibility that just won’t happen. It’s your life, with the emphasis on YOUR and what you do is for you and for no one else. Love your life and remember no one can impose any limits on you but you! To sum it all up I’d like to quote Ayn Rand from ATLAS SHRUGGED -
"I swear by my life and my love of it, I will never live my life for the sake of another man nor will I ask another man to live for the sake of mine"

LOVE,
ADITI